I dont know who to choose, my babydaddy or someone else?

i have been with my baby daddy joe for 5 years and its been hell! even though he somehow shows he loves me, he always talked to his ex and other girls ever since we started going out! but after our 1st date, joe had stopped talking to me for a month and that when me and oaul went out for da whole month! nothing serious! just hanging out! then joe showed up! i stopped hanging out with paul and went back to joe! we been together for 5 years and its been nothing but betrayal and lies from joe! everytime we broke it off, joe would talk to other girls while me and paul would hang out! now its been 5 months since joe last talked to his ex and other girls! now me and joe are still together and joe is not bored with me in bed! but my life with joe is lame! now paul is in prison and he only has two years left! paul told me that he's in love with me! but the problem is that im still living with joe and i lied to paul about being with joe! paul thinks im single! and the biggest problem is if i stay with joe, its gonna be nothing but lies and betrayal! but there are things dat i like about joe! i like dat fact that he dont smoke or drink! but he does treat me bad and sometimes makes me feel bad about myself! but if i be with paul, im scared that his family wont like and will critisize me about have 2 kids with someone else! i dont like da fact dat paul smokes and drinks! but i have a good feeling that i will trust him! and he's good to me! im so sad and i dont know who to choose! help! any advise???